Sustainable Relationship

I am currently mourning the loss of another monogamous relationship. As I reflect on what went wrong, I wonder again if monogamy is the best vehicle toward finding a lifelong, meaningful partner(s).

First of all, friendship is partnership is relationship is love. In that sense, I am a very full person. I am a full individual without anyone else’s love to validate me. But I, like many others, crave companionship. I think that this desire is exploited by societal forces to keep gender roles and patriarchal rule as a steadfast part of our world.

I am under a misunderstanding that monogamy is the way to find someone who works for me. I honestly cannot tell another person that I’ll never want to fuck someone else. That’s not ever going to be true for me and I need to recognize and communicate that to people. I have to validate myself in this because my knowledge is I am not alone but I am also counter-culture in my need for a different pattern.

I know relationships will continue to begin and end, and it will hurt. But serial monogamy is not making me happy, at all.

That’s why I’m starting to practice polyamory. I’ll let you know how it goes.

By justpearlythings

I am a writer, a lover, and a believer in the good things in life. I write about mental health and wellness, along with book reviews and fashion opinions. My blog caters to thoughtful, growth-minded women and men, and offers insights and personal challenges that provide a space for relevant, meaningful connection. The World Wide Web is vast, it contains multitudes, and so do we as people. I believe that through self-awareness and honesty, we create a more loving planet for everyone. Feel free to follow this page and share it with friends and family. Love, Pearl

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