I am currently mourning the loss of another monogamous relationship. As I reflect on what went wrong, I wonder again if monogamy is the best vehicle toward finding a lifelong, meaningful partner(s).
First of all, friendship is partnership is relationship is love. In that sense, I am a very full person. I am a full individual without anyone else’s love to validate me. But I, like many others, crave companionship. I think that this desire is exploited by societal forces to keep gender roles and patriarchal rule as a steadfast part of our world.
I am under a misunderstanding that monogamy is the way to find someone who works for me. I honestly cannot tell another person that I’ll never want to fuck someone else. That’s not ever going to be true for me and I need to recognize and communicate that to people. I have to validate myself in this because my knowledge is I am not alone but I am also counter-culture in my need for a different pattern.
I know relationships will continue to begin and end, and it will hurt. But serial monogamy is not making me happy, at all.
That’s why I’m starting to practice polyamory. I’ll let you know how it goes.