Greetings, from Manhattan, New York! I am writing this on the hardwood floor as I currently do not have any furniture. My bed and mattress arrive tomorrow, along with my coffee table. The couch and television will need to wait, because I will be next week and won’t be around to receive the deliveries.
Needless to say, sleeping on my mattress topper and quilt on the floor these past two nights has been… less than cozy. Drinking from the same cup and using plastic utensils is not quite what I envisioned when I pictured my fabulous Manhattan lifestyle. But, deliveries take time, and selecting the perfect items for my new home takes patience.
The Spectrum man just left after setting up my WiFi (we are live!) I feel like having internet already makes this place feel more like home.
That being said, I wanted to write this post about discomfort. As my friend said on the phone last night, “You can’t grow in your comfort zone.” I really needed to hear that, because it often seems that when we feel uncomfortable, we feel like we are doing something wrong. Therefore, we avoid discomfort at all costs. But in many cases, discomfort means that we are doing something right!
I am training my brain to read discomfort as a plus. Like a good workout, the body gets sore. Like a new diet, the body needs time to reach equilibrium again. The time between starting a new change, and ingraining that change as a habit, is a beautiful time of transformation. This phase is when the uncanny occurs – the messy, the vulnerable – this phase is where we as humans want to avert our eyes, fast forward, and just get it over with already.
But imagine your favorite movie, where the main character goes through some transformation. That montage, of the poor schmuck training or practicing a new skill, with a dope soundtrack and sexier-than-reality sweat, is all Hollywood. It’s great fun for us to watch from the comfort of our couches, but that character was probably experiencing a great deal of discomfort, even pain.
I am the main character of my own movie, and so are you. I get to narrate my movie, and I have to check myself when I cast myself in a role that is less than my vision for myself. I remind myself that this is all part of the journey of creating something wonderful. In the words of Miley Cyrus, it’s the climb.
What types of discomfort are you experiencing lately? Are you too comfortable? Does discomfort scare you into thinking you’re doing it wrong? Let me know in the comments!