I know what you’re thinking: “she has to travel to the seventh circle of Mark Zuckerberg’s hell in order to delete her Facebook account!” Well, I did it.
Deleting the account was harder than I expected because Facebook literally doesn’t allow you to simply delete your account. Oh no. Like a nefarious drug, Facebook requires that you “deactivate” your account, which means taking the account offline but not deleting it. Then, if you refrain from logging in or re-activating your account for a grand total of three months (ninety days,) Facebook will finally delete your account.
It took me a few tries to succeed at making the ninety day mark. But in 2019, I successfully deleted my entire account.
Since then, my social life has dramatically improved, despite my lacking one of the biggest social media platform since MySpace. Here’s the improvements I noticed :
- The quality of my friendships has deepened. There is a certain intimacy about going to my Contacts in my cell phone, selecting a friend’s number, and composing a text or giving them a call. It means I was actually thinking about them, and vice versa, as opposed to “Oh, I saw you were online and thought I’d harass you with my greetings now!” Without Facebook, the effort that I and my friends put into maintaining our friendship gets appreciated, and actually makes the friendship more valuable and meaningful.
- People put more effort into connecting with me. Knowing that they can’t find me on Facebook, people either go about their lives without me, or make a real effort to stay in touch with me. This helps me know that certain individuals are truly interested in my personality, what I have to offer, my good vibes, and that they are willing to express their fondness of me by meeting me off Facebook.
- Flirting is way funner. It’s so mysterious and sexy to get to know someone based on conversation, experiences, or just a simple misunderstanding that you both have to work out together. On Facebook, you have a list of someone’s interests and hobbies, and even their political tastes. It’s pretty un-sexy to learn everything about someone from a computer screen. Eliminating that option has made my flirtations so much more exciting, and I get to know people’s personalities in a way that I find much more charming.
- Organizing social events is easy. One of the main drawbacks from deleting Facebook, according to many, is the social aspect. Facebook offers lots of meetups and groups, but when I deleted my Facebook, I realized I had to either start my own group or find a new way to get into them. So I did just that – I started a book club! I used an app called Meetup, which allows me to just start a club and host events locally. I didn’t need Facebook at all, and I met a bunch of random and wonderful individuals who decided to meet up at a local cafe and discuss literature. It felt great to be able to accomplish that social setting for myself, and others, right here in my neighborhood!
- My mind is clearer, because I consume less irrelevant crap. I still scroll on Twitter, but I don’t miss a second of scrolling on Facebook. I was sure to get sucked into some comment section argument, or I’d get sidetracked because someone commented on my post from three years ago. Now, I literally have less information in my brain, and that allows me to use my brain more efficiently for my own personal goals.
How has deleting Facebook, or any other social media purge, affected you positively? Did it have any negatives? Would you ever delete your Facebook account?