If you know about the law of attraction, you’ve heard that what you think and how you feel on a regular basis, will eventually make its way to you in real life. There are countless guides on how to wire your brain away from negative mindsets and into more positive mindsets, thus making it easier to achieve a positive law of attraction experience. But what happens if you have chronic depression? What if you have been through trauma and are currently unable to promote those positive feelings and thoughts on a regular basis?
Fret not, dear reader (or at least, don’t panic,) because the law of attraction and positive thinking can still work wonderfully, even if you have depression or anxiety.
But here is the trick, and this is very important: you must separate your anxiety/trauma from your identity. Otherwise, you won’t see the anxiety as a medical condition or temporary condition that you’re currently afflicted by. If you don’t choose to see your trauma in this cold, clinical light, then you risk allowing the anxiety or depression to fuel your subconscious beliefs about the law of attraction.
Here’s an example: I’m currently working on manifesting some important career change. I’m journaling positive affirmations, thinking positively about the change, and I really believe I can do it. But – I am also experiencing a lot of anxiety attacks due to past trauma coming up and resurfacing. After I journal about my positive affirmations, I may find myself feeling worried about nothing.
This is a situation that is not abnormal, and you shouldn’t feel like you’re “doing it wrong.” Yes, you should feel good about your goals, but that doesn’t mean you have to boop -magically not have anxiety or depression. It definitely doesn’t mean you have to boop – instantly erase all memories or triggers related to your trauma.
Managing trauma, anxiety, and depression, is its own task.
And if you aren’t taking good care of yourself, then you can feel shitty about yourself for doing absolutely zero for your mental health. You probably deserve to feel shitty about that, if you’re doing absolutely nothing to help yourself get better.
But if you’re reading this, then that’s not you. So don’t feel bad, because you can remind yourself, “Oh, I actually have a different journal I use to relieve my anxiety.” Or you can remind yourself, “I just went for a walk around the neighborhood this morning.” Or you can stick a Post-It on the mirror that says, “I wrote a poem today.” You need to remind yourself that you are, in fact, dealing with your trauma or anxiety in a responsible, adult manner, and not sitting in your apartment eating Ramen noodles for the third week in a row. Right?
Listen, if you’re depressed or anxious, you aren’t going to feel like a million bucks thanks to the law of attraction.
You’ll just be a person with anxiety, who happens to be winning at life.
This is the thing: doing good in life, being successful, and making serious progress toward your goals, does not cure trauma.
Success doesn’t even necessarily relieve the symptoms of trauma, depression, or anxiety.
If it did, why would so many celebrities and successful people commit suicide? Make it make sense!
Therefore, the good news is: you can still be successful using the positive affirmations and the law of attraction, while also be recovering from trauma or coping with mental health conditions.
The bad news is: using the law of attraction and becoming more successful, does not cure trauma or provide a solution for mental health conditions. You still have to do the work of taking care of yourself, acknowledging your mental condition, and being real with yourself.
Everyone knows that person who claims to have it all, but who can’t admit that they’re dead inside. This person uses the law of attraction to manifest success, but they were too afraid to face their inner trauma, anxiety, or depression along the way. This person may achieve the success they seek, but, on a mental level, may never be capable of appreciating it.
Everyone also knows that person who has a lot of shit on their plate, that person who went down in flames once or twice in the past – but that person not only has success, they have a sense of pride in themselves seems to come from within. This person’s happiness in life comes not only from physical gains, but mental accomplishments. This person knows that, yes, they may still find themselves in a dark place. Shit happens, right? But this person has mental support, because they made that choice to be honest with themselves about their conditions, and didn’t let their conditions stop them from achieving success. More importantly, their conditions don’t threaten or haunt their hard-won success.
Many people will achieve a successful life, without facing their inner demons. But their success will be haunted, and they will find themselves looking for an escape from that lurking trauma, secret, fear, shame, or anxiety. Be the person who enjoys their success both materially and mentally.
The good news is that if you get physical therapy for a bad leg, the chances are you can walk, and even run, again. The same is true for mental health – if you give yourself the gift of therapy, self-help guidance books, or joining a group, you will get better. Maybe you won’t become perfect – but who is perfect? It’s human to be imperfect. Don’t aspire to lose your humanity.
All this to say – if you’ve achieved some level of success, don’t be afraid of your mental health condition ruining it. Be who are. More importantly, remind yourself of who you are, especially when you don’t believe it. Dark days come for us all, but if you are a person who is currently afflicted by mental health conditions, those dark days can feel like months, and your self-confidence as a successful person may take a hit.
I hope this post boosted your confidence. You don’t have to feel hunky dory all the time, and if you have anxiety, you won’t feel hunky dory even after you’ve been successful (it sucks to have anxiety, I know.) But I’m here to tell you, if you’re doing a good job in life, and you still have anxiety, it just means you have anxiety. That’s all.
You’re doing the damn thing, so don’t give up!