New York Winter and the (de)Light of Friendship

It isn’t the cold that is the worst part. It’s the grey. It’s three PM and I haven’t seen the sun all day. I saw it for a fleeting moment yesterday morning, but it’s not out today, and it may not be out tomorrow, either. The gloominess of this New York Winter reminds me I…… Continue reading New York Winter and the (de)Light of Friendship

Numb / Detox / Relapse / Recycle ?

“and I have become comfortably numb,” is what Pink Floyd song says in what I consider to be one of the most depressing songs of all time. When I look back at when I started using drugs, it was because I enjoyed feeling comfortably numb. It was better than the anxiety and depression and self-defeating…… Continue reading Numb / Detox / Relapse / Recycle ?

Lessons of the Fall: Letting Go

2020 is my first experience of East Coast fall, and it’s stunning. Watching the leaves fall, like sparkles dripping, I am reminded of how nature easily sheds itself, transforming from one season to another. Why do we humans cling so hard to what is no longer working? Imagine if a tree tried to cling to…… Continue reading Lessons of the Fall: Letting Go

A Time for Learning and a Time for Doing

In May of 2019, I had just quit my 9-5 job in order to work for myself. It was the biggest leap of faith I had taken at that time, and I woke up in a panic during the first few weeks afterward. “What have I done?” and “I wonder if I can get my…… Continue reading A Time for Learning and a Time for Doing

We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Problems are like elbows – everyone’s got them. Our individual problems say a lot about where we are in life, and in this piece, I suggest that imagining problems constructively can build a life that is enjoyable and fulfilling. I use this method in my own life whenever I’m trying to achieve something, which is…… Continue reading We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Do the Work, and the Work Will Do the Rest

The title of this blog post is from the depths of Twitter, or a screenshot of Twitter, posted somewhere in the depths of Instagram. If you learn who originally said it, let me know so I can credit them. This phrase really says it all, and it’s no coincidence that the phrase has been running…… Continue reading Do the Work, and the Work Will Do the Rest

I Feel Uncomfortable, and It’s Great

Greetings, from Manhattan, New York! I am writing this on the hardwood floor as I currently do not have any furniture. My bed and mattress arrive tomorrow, along with my coffee table. The couch and television will need to wait, because I will be next week and won’t be around to receive the deliveries. Needless…… Continue reading I Feel Uncomfortable, and It’s Great

It’s Not Your Job to Make People Understand

Last night I spent some time with a dear friend, and our conversation led her to say, “It isn’t your job to make others understand.” Her words resonated with me and inspired me to write this post addressing what so many of us struggle with: the co-dependent tendency of people-pleasing. https://media.giphy.com/media/8EvcxIrfrz3TG/giphy.gif It’s in our nature…… Continue reading It’s Not Your Job to Make People Understand

Fully Human: Destruction

Today a storm raged in Austin, and the natural process of destruction inspired me. Examples of beneficial aspects of destruction include a forest fire that fertilizes new generations, or the storm that is, as I write this, filling our Greenbelt with fresh water. Nature teaches us that destruction and creation can and must co-exist. Nature…… Continue reading Fully Human: Destruction