Breaking News from My Therapist: There is No Happiness Limit

Somewhere along the healing journey, self-sabotage rears its funny-looking head. It can come in many disguises. Most lately, my self-sabotage has me thinking, “that’s enough goodness for today.” But the reality is: there is no Goodness Maximum or Goodness Limit. The strange, irrational, “Is this too much goodness?” feeling comes up when I’ve just done…… Continue reading Breaking News from My Therapist: There is No Happiness Limit

Why Does Joy Trigger Anxiety?

As a recovering co-dependent, one of the first things I learned was the importance of naming my feelings. For about a month, I carried around a worksheet that I had printed out called the Wheel of Emotions. When I was unsure what I was feeling, I could pull out that crumpled piece of paper and…… Continue reading Why Does Joy Trigger Anxiety?

What Did You Come to Earth to Do?

I am a sci-fi nerd (self-declared) and it helps me live my best life to imagine that life is just a big video game. You know, the kind where you select your Avatar, your strengths and handicaps, and yes, your mission. I feel like at the end, all our missions are similar: share love, help…… Continue reading What Did You Come to Earth to Do?

Addicted to Worry and Illusions of Control

I’ve been doing *the most* lately. And it’s been great, it’s been lovely, it’s been scary, it’s been empowering. The trend has been positive, overall. So why is it so hard for me to stay in a state of joyfulness? Why is it so easy – comfortable, even – for me to provoke my mind…… Continue reading Addicted to Worry and Illusions of Control

What am I going to do now? and other questions during recovery

I am experiencing a bit of anxiety about how my life will look after all these changes I’m making. I am reminding myself that I am not in control of most things, but what I am in control of is myself. I have got to trust that good things will come, and are already coming.…… Continue reading What am I going to do now? and other questions during recovery