Somewhere along the healing journey, self-sabotage rears its funny-looking head. It can come in many disguises. Most lately, my self-sabotage has me thinking, “that’s enough goodness for today.” But the reality is: there is no Goodness Maximum or Goodness Limit. The strange, irrational, “Is this too much goodness?” feeling comes up when I’ve just done…… Continue reading Breaking News from My Therapist: There is No Happiness Limit
My interest in Irish history is teaching me lots of cool terms, like shite and ta. But I digress – I need to tell you that it’s okay to feel okay about the things you are capable of doing. And that it’s not necessary to feel badly about those things you aren’t capable of doing.…… Continue reading How to Feel Good About What You Can Do (Versus Feeling Shite About What You Can’t)
Maybe we are all liars. Maybe we have all been forced to lie. But there is always a chance, and a choice, to reveal the truth. Do I dare? Do you?
Hey guys, it’s been a while since I’ve written about substances in my life. I went from chilling, to realizing I couldn’t chill anymore and be happy, to beginning a journey of sobriety that showed me how much I came to rely on the magical marijuana plant. This led me to some much-needed therapy and…… Continue reading Ritalin: To Take or Not to Take? That Is the Question
I just got out of a hot bath. I put a few drops of lavender essential oil and a few more drops of ylang ylang essential oil in the tub, stirred it around, and lowered myself into the steamy, hot water. Then I looked around at my bathroom and noticed some spots that needed cleaning.…… Continue reading Perfectionism Has No Place in Self-Care (Or My Bathtub)
I stepped timidly into the cat-eat-cat world of beauty and makeup. It teaches me to take pleasure in the daily routine of skin care and makeup. Check out a few of my favorites from 2020: Glossier Milky Jelly Cleanser. $18. I bought this twice because it’s so soft, gentle and pleasant. No wonder it won…… Continue reading Pearl’s Top Ten Beauty Must-Haves of 2020
Remarkably, it was a twelve-step program for co-dependents that gave me the strength to face my issues with addiction. I began learning about codependency after a terrible breakup, and found that I fit the bill for a garden-variety, run-of-the-mill, codependent. Here’s what I learned about codependents: CODEPENDENTS OFTEN… Have difficulty identifying what they are feelingMinimize,…… Continue reading Coping with Codependency: Addiction and Intertwined Illnesses
“and I have become comfortably numb,” is what Pink Floyd song says in what I consider to be one of the most depressing songs of all time. When I look back at when I started using drugs, it was because I enjoyed feeling comfortably numb. It was better than the anxiety and depression and self-defeating…… Continue reading Numb / Detox / Relapse / Recycle ?
No one actually wants to go out to in them.
I’ll start this post by saying I broke my sobriety the other day and although it was a great time with friends, and though I felt fine the following day, I knew I was going down a slippery slope. The truth is, it’s either all or nothing for me, and right now I’m choosing nothing.…… Continue reading Sobriety During the Holidays: Impossible?