Dear People Doing Fireworks All Night on July 4th: Kindly F*@% Off

I’m pro-Independence Day, in the sense that I’m a fan of freedom and the right to bear arms. But there’s also something called the right to a decent night’s sleep: a key component being uninterrupted quiet. So tell me why myself, my cat DC, and the good people of Harlem and Morningside Heights, need to…… Continue reading Dear People Doing Fireworks All Night on July 4th: Kindly F*@% Off

Pics or It Didn’t Happen: Social Media and Sacrificing the Moment

Riding uptown in a yellow cab, windows down, smelling the September air (surprisingly fresh despite this concrete jungle,) I pulled out my phone to snap a video for Instagram. I wished to share the moment with my followers, my friends, the world. But I quickly put my phone back in my purse, aware that if…… Continue reading Pics or It Didn’t Happen: Social Media and Sacrificing the Moment

Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered

Greetings from my actual mattress in my Manhattan flat! Yes, that’s right, the days of sleeping on floor like a squatter are over. My bed frame arrives next week, so I’m still living like a meth addict with my mattress on the floor, but this too shall pass. With the busyness of moving from Texas…… Continue reading Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered

I Feel Uncomfortable, and It’s Great

Greetings, from Manhattan, New York! I am writing this on the hardwood floor as I currently do not have any furniture. My bed and mattress arrive tomorrow, along with my coffee table. The couch and television will need to wait, because I will be next week and won’t be around to receive the deliveries. Needless…… Continue reading I Feel Uncomfortable, and It’s Great

Benefits of Quarantine: Blessings in Disguise

I, too, am annoyed by any person that says “Aw shucks, I don’t want global quarantine to end, it’s been fun!” But… I will admit there are many benefits that come as a result of the COVID19 quarantines. Here are four that I’ve experienced personally, making me believe some side-effects of the global pandemic are…… Continue reading Benefits of Quarantine: Blessings in Disguise

What the Torta Kid Taught Me

I remember seeing the Vine of the little boy who opened the fridge to realize that someone ate his torta (sandwich). I posted the video below, if you haven’t already seen it. The expression of pure despair in the boy’s voice struck a cord with me, because it is the sound of losing something that…… Continue reading What the Torta Kid Taught Me

Life is a series of actions that create your world

One should not underestimate the power of a single act. Especially in times of chaos, war, and intense vulnerabilities, the force of will it takes to act – and to act authentically – is a reclamation of personal power that transforms one’s own body into a raft on unsteady seas. We must all learn to…… Continue reading Life is a series of actions that create your world

Traveling Alone and Society’s Control of Women’s Movement

I wrote in my journal, sitting alone on a bench in New Orleans, “What really bothers me is that if someone were to harm me on this trip, folks will blame my solitude for the attacker’s crime. My choice to be alone, which I find liberating and important for women’s progress, would be used as…… Continue reading Traveling Alone and Society’s Control of Women’s Movement

Sustainable Relationship

I am currently mourning the loss of another monogamous relationship. As I reflect on what went wrong, I wonder again if monogamy is the best vehicle toward finding a lifelong, meaningful partner(s). First of all, friendship is partnership is relationship is love. In that sense, I am a very full person. I am a full…… Continue reading Sustainable Relationship