Lessons of the Fall: Letting Go

2020 is my first experience of East Coast fall, and it’s stunning. Watching the leaves fall, like sparkles dripping, I am reminded of how nature easily sheds itself, transforming from one season to another. Why do we humans cling so hard to what is no longer working? Imagine if a tree tried to cling to…… Continue reading Lessons of the Fall: Letting Go

We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Problems are like elbows – everyone’s got them. Our individual problems say a lot about where we are in life, and in this piece, I suggest that imagining problems constructively can build a life that is enjoyable and fulfilling. I use this method in my own life whenever I’m trying to achieve something, which is…… Continue reading We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Why Does Joy Trigger Anxiety?

As a recovering co-dependent, one of the first things I learned was the importance of naming my feelings. For about a month, I carried around a worksheet that I had printed out called the Wheel of Emotions. When I was unsure what I was feeling, I could pull out that crumpled piece of paper and…… Continue reading Why Does Joy Trigger Anxiety?

What Did You Come to Earth to Do?

I am a sci-fi nerd (self-declared) and it helps me live my best life to imagine that life is just a big video game. You know, the kind where you select your Avatar, your strengths and handicaps, and yes, your mission. I feel like at the end, all our missions are similar: share love, help…… Continue reading What Did You Come to Earth to Do?

Do the Work, and the Work Will Do the Rest

The title of this blog post is from the depths of Twitter, or a screenshot of Twitter, posted somewhere in the depths of Instagram. If you learn who originally said it, let me know so I can credit them. This phrase really says it all, and it’s no coincidence that the phrase has been running…… Continue reading Do the Work, and the Work Will Do the Rest

Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered

Greetings from my actual mattress in my Manhattan flat! Yes, that’s right, the days of sleeping on floor like a squatter are over. My bed frame arrives next week, so I’m still living like a meth addict with my mattress on the floor, but this too shall pass. With the busyness of moving from Texas…… Continue reading Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered