5 Ways to NOT Get Back Together With Your Ex

Tried and true, tested by yours truly, these 5 tricks work every time to NOT achieve a reunion. Whether you want to seem like a total psycho, or whether you want to make sure the relationship is ruined forever, and make sure you never have a chance in hell with your dreaded ex, I’ve compiled…… Continue reading 5 Ways to NOT Get Back Together With Your Ex

New York Winter and the (de)Light of Friendship

It isn’t the cold that is the worst part. It’s the grey. It’s three PM and I haven’t seen the sun all day. I saw it for a fleeting moment yesterday morning, but it’s not out today, and it may not be out tomorrow, either. The gloominess of this New York Winter reminds me I…… Continue reading New York Winter and the (de)Light of Friendship

Bedtime Routines and a Lesson in Karma

I’ve been reading the Bhagavad Gita in my endless journey into the unknown recesses of my mind, and I learned that the way we Westerners understand Karma is woefully ignorant. Yes, it can be summed up in the phrase, “What goes around comes around,” but there’s another dimension to the concept of Karma that I…… Continue reading Bedtime Routines and a Lesson in Karma

We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Problems are like elbows – everyone’s got them. Our individual problems say a lot about where we are in life, and in this piece, I suggest that imagining problems constructively can build a life that is enjoyable and fulfilling. I use this method in my own life whenever I’m trying to achieve something, which is…… Continue reading We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered

Greetings from my actual mattress in my Manhattan flat! Yes, that’s right, the days of sleeping on floor like a squatter are over. My bed frame arrives next week, so I’m still living like a meth addict with my mattress on the floor, but this too shall pass. With the busyness of moving from Texas…… Continue reading Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered

Banish Bad Habits with the Waning Moon

I intend to banish that which no longer serves me during this waning moon. As a menstruating person, I take extra care to notice the way in which the moon’s phases mirror the monthly tides of my own system. Like the moon, I grow to full during ovulation, and wane back to darkness as I…… Continue reading Banish Bad Habits with the Waning Moon

Rewiring My Brain: Adventures in Neuroplasticity

It’s been almost a month since my first trip to New York City, that dream-scape city of my dreams. I sat in a bookstore called Shakespeare’s and wrote about rewiring my brain the way an explorer navigates a new trail. You see, I realized that I cannot continue to follow the same worn-out mental paths…… Continue reading Rewiring My Brain: Adventures in Neuroplasticity

One Thing Leads to Another

I’ve been working on my dependencies lately, most critically the nature of co-dependency and the nature of finding emotionally unavailable people attractive. One thing that has become apparent as I go down this healing journey, is that I am using other substances as an additional source of dependency. I’m talking about addiction. I’m talking about…… Continue reading One Thing Leads to Another

The Quietness of Self-Care

I’ve been researching a lot on co-dependency. I’m more aware of the symptoms and patterns of codependent behavior, and being open to this knowledge is helping me to re-focus my intent and actions. The thing is, I often find myself wanting to instigate something exciting, only to stop myself, because yay for non-manipulative, authentic interactions.…… Continue reading The Quietness of Self-Care