Somewhere along the healing journey, self-sabotage rears its funny-looking head. It can come in many disguises. Most lately, my self-sabotage has me thinking, “that’s enough goodness for today.” But the reality is: there is no Goodness Maximum or Goodness Limit. The strange, irrational, “Is this too much goodness?” feeling comes up when I’ve just done…… Continue reading Breaking News from My Therapist: There is No Happiness Limit
As a recovering co-dependent, one of the first things I learned was the importance of naming my feelings. For about a month, I carried around a worksheet that I had printed out called the Wheel of Emotions. When I was unsure what I was feeling, I could pull out that crumpled piece of paper and…… Continue reading Why Does Joy Trigger Anxiety?
A lot of us know how to set goals. Boy, can we set them. But we set goals and then something happens between start and finish, and our goals remain un-reached, despite our earnest desires and efforts. Why? The answer I propose is that as we near a goal, we change. And this change in…… Continue reading Staying the Course: How to Reach Your Goal
I had a hard day yesterday, and I can’t blame other people for my cloudy disposition. I acknowledge that certain moments triggered my feelings of anxiety and fear, but the feelings themselves were my own. The frustrating thing about self awareness is taking responsibility for all aspects of myself. Self accountability is the key to…… Continue reading In Defense of Bad Days
I’ve been researching a lot on co-dependency. I’m more aware of the symptoms and patterns of codependent behavior, and being open to this knowledge is helping me to re-focus my intent and actions. The thing is, I often find myself wanting to instigate something exciting, only to stop myself, because yay for non-manipulative, authentic interactions.…… Continue reading The Quietness of Self-Care
One should not underestimate the power of a single act. Especially in times of chaos, war, and intense vulnerabilities, the force of will it takes to act – and to act authentically – is a reclamation of personal power that transforms one’s own body into a raft on unsteady seas. We must all learn to…… Continue reading Life is a series of actions that create your world