Perfectionism Has No Place in Self-Care (Or My Bathtub)

I just got out of a hot bath. I put a few drops of lavender essential oil and a few more drops of ylang ylang essential oil in the tub, stirred it around, and lowered myself into the steamy, hot water. Then I looked around at my bathroom and noticed some spots that needed cleaning.…… Continue reading Perfectionism Has No Place in Self-Care (Or My Bathtub)

Pearl’s Top Ten Beauty Must-Haves of 2020

I stepped timidly into the cat-eat-cat world of beauty and makeup. It teaches me to take pleasure in the daily routine of skin care and makeup. Check out a few of my favorites from 2020: Glossier Milky Jelly Cleanser. $18. I bought this twice because it’s so soft, gentle and pleasant. No wonder it won…… Continue reading Pearl’s Top Ten Beauty Must-Haves of 2020

It’s Not Your Job to Make People Understand

Last night I spent some time with a dear friend, and our conversation led her to say, “It isn’t your job to make others understand.” Her words resonated with me and inspired me to write this post addressing what so many of us struggle with: the co-dependent tendency of people-pleasing. https://media.giphy.com/media/8EvcxIrfrz3TG/giphy.gif It’s in our nature…… Continue reading It’s Not Your Job to Make People Understand

Benefits of Quarantine: Blessings in Disguise

I, too, am annoyed by any person that says “Aw shucks, I don’t want global quarantine to end, it’s been fun!” But… I will admit there are many benefits that come as a result of the COVID19 quarantines. Here are four that I’ve experienced personally, making me believe some side-effects of the global pandemic are…… Continue reading Benefits of Quarantine: Blessings in Disguise

What am I going to do now? and other questions during recovery

I am experiencing a bit of anxiety about how my life will look after all these changes I’m making. I am reminding myself that I am not in control of most things, but what I am in control of is myself. I have got to trust that good things will come, and are already coming.…… Continue reading What am I going to do now? and other questions during recovery

Clear Mind, Scary Thoughts

It’s been about a week since I started the sobriety journey and the “try to stop giving unsolicited advice and try to free myself of trying to control other people” journey. One thing that I’ve noticed, in doing both of these things at the same time, that my cleared mind is making way for a…… Continue reading Clear Mind, Scary Thoughts

The Quietness of Self-Care

I’ve been researching a lot on co-dependency. I’m more aware of the symptoms and patterns of codependent behavior, and being open to this knowledge is helping me to re-focus my intent and actions. The thing is, I often find myself wanting to instigate something exciting, only to stop myself, because yay for non-manipulative, authentic interactions.…… Continue reading The Quietness of Self-Care