Perfectionism Has No Place in Self-Care (Or My Bathtub)

I just got out of a hot bath. I put a few drops of lavender essential oil and a few more drops of ylang ylang essential oil in the tub, stirred it around, and lowered myself into the steamy, hot water. Then I looked around at my bathroom and noticed some spots that needed cleaning.…… Continue reading Perfectionism Has No Place in Self-Care (Or My Bathtub)

Coping with Codependency: Addiction and Intertwined Illnesses

Remarkably, it was a twelve-step program for co-dependents that gave me the strength to face my issues with addiction. I began learning about codependency after a terrible breakup, and found that I fit the bill for a garden-variety, run-of-the-mill, codependent. Here’s what I learned about codependents: CODEPENDENTS OFTEN… Have difficulty identifying what they are feelingMinimize,…… Continue reading Coping with Codependency: Addiction and Intertwined Illnesses

Why Does Joy Trigger Anxiety?

As a recovering co-dependent, one of the first things I learned was the importance of naming my feelings. For about a month, I carried around a worksheet that I had printed out called the Wheel of Emotions. When I was unsure what I was feeling, I could pull out that crumpled piece of paper and…… Continue reading Why Does Joy Trigger Anxiety?

If a Tree Falls…

I used to believe Pics or it didn’t happen. If no one hears it, That tree didn’t fall. Now I see Myself. I witness. Myself. At first it felt lonely, My own eyes not being enough. But as my self love grew, So did my ability to exist, Unfiltered. Unwatched. Unseen. I affirm, I am…… Continue reading If a Tree Falls…