Why Getting Healthy Actually Sucks

Ugh. Just ugh. Here’s a piece that has been in my mind, pricking it my brain, for days now. It’s about why getting healthy, mentally and physically, actually sucks. It’s about why I actually hate personal growth. Eff this. It’s so hard, sometimes it feels too hard. And I feel both brave and hopeless and…… Continue reading Why Getting Healthy Actually Sucks

We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Problems are like elbows – everyone’s got them. Our individual problems say a lot about where we are in life, and in this piece, I suggest that imagining problems constructively can build a life that is enjoyable and fulfilling. I use this method in my own life whenever I’m trying to achieve something, which is…… Continue reading We Can Choose (At Least Some of) Our Problems

Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered

Greetings from my actual mattress in my Manhattan flat! Yes, that’s right, the days of sleeping on floor like a squatter are over. My bed frame arrives next week, so I’m still living like a meth addict with my mattress on the floor, but this too shall pass. With the busyness of moving from Texas…… Continue reading Focusing On Joy Doesn’t Mean You Haven’t Suffered

It’s Not Your Job to Make People Understand

Last night I spent some time with a dear friend, and our conversation led her to say, “It isn’t your job to make others understand.” Her words resonated with me and inspired me to write this post addressing what so many of us struggle with: the co-dependent tendency of people-pleasing. https://media.giphy.com/media/8EvcxIrfrz3TG/giphy.gif It’s in our nature…… Continue reading It’s Not Your Job to Make People Understand

Fully Human: Destruction

Today a storm raged in Austin, and the natural process of destruction inspired me. Examples of beneficial aspects of destruction include a forest fire that fertilizes new generations, or the storm that is, as I write this, filling our Greenbelt with fresh water. Nature teaches us that destruction and creation can and must co-exist. Nature…… Continue reading Fully Human: Destruction

The Hardest Part of Change

My blog focuses on personal growth, positive expansion, and ending bad habits. I talk about the pathways to change, and how good change comes from within. If change can be good, then why does it hurt so badly? The answer is, change doesn’t have to hurt. In this piece, I’ll explain how compassion can transform…… Continue reading The Hardest Part of Change

Staying the Course: How to Reach Your Goal

A lot of us know how to set goals. Boy, can we set them. But we set goals and then something happens between start and finish, and our goals remain un-reached, despite our earnest desires and efforts. Why? The answer I propose is that as we near a goal, we change. And this change in…… Continue reading Staying the Course: How to Reach Your Goal