Pics or It Didn’t Happen: Social Media and Sacrificing the Moment

Riding uptown in a yellow cab, windows down, smelling the September air (surprisingly fresh despite this concrete jungle,) I pulled out my phone to snap a video for Instagram. I wished to share the moment with my followers, my friends, the world. But I quickly put my phone back in my purse, aware that if…… Continue reading Pics or It Didn’t Happen: Social Media and Sacrificing the Moment

Why Perfectionism Kills Fun

It’s been a while since my last post. Like, almost a month? I can make excuses: I’ve been putting down roots in New York City; I’ve been adopting a cat; I’ve been working on my meditation and exercise routines. All of these are true, but the real reason I’ve been procrastinating is that I struggle…… Continue reading Why Perfectionism Kills Fun

I Feel Uncomfortable, and It’s Great

Greetings, from Manhattan, New York! I am writing this on the hardwood floor as I currently do not have any furniture. My bed and mattress arrive tomorrow, along with my coffee table. The couch and television will need to wait, because I will be next week and won’t be around to receive the deliveries. Needless…… Continue reading I Feel Uncomfortable, and It’s Great

Staying the Course: How to Reach Your Goal

A lot of us know how to set goals. Boy, can we set them. But we set goals and then something happens between start and finish, and our goals remain un-reached, despite our earnest desires and efforts. Why? The answer I propose is that as we near a goal, we change. And this change in…… Continue reading Staying the Course: How to Reach Your Goal

One Thing Leads to Another

I’ve been working on my dependencies lately, most critically the nature of co-dependency and the nature of finding emotionally unavailable people attractive. One thing that has become apparent as I go down this healing journey, is that I am using other substances as an additional source of dependency. I’m talking about addiction. I’m talking about…… Continue reading One Thing Leads to Another